The True Cost of Living Someone Else’s Life

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For many years, I lived in the shadow of others in pursuit of their needs and dreams. It was so bad that if you asked me what I wanted in life it was hard for me to answer. I lacked clarity about what really mattered to me, what I wanted to do with my life, who I was, and what I was here to experience.

On occasion I would break free and focus on me and I noticed my life would flourish. It was usually short-lived and I would end up back in situations that kept me in the illusion of being powerless, stuck and unhappy.

At a young age I became overly responsible and caring to the point of depletion. I felt I was fitting my life in rather than living it – existing instead of living fully. Eventually, this way of being finally took a toll on me and I started to fear I might never live the life I had always dreamed of having.

Now don’t get me wrong, I think helping others is a good thing but when it’s out of balance and starts impacting you in your own life in terms of your health, finances, and general day-to-day happiness then you have to take a stand for you and put you first.

My turning point came when I was attending coaches training. The first week was all about gaining awareness and by the end of the week I broke down in tears because I realized without a doubt that I had been living someone else’s life and the life I dreamed of having was still waiting to be discovered explored and brought to reality. I remember becoming very emotional and inaudibly saying to the group as we stood in a circle, “ I believe I just bumped into myself.”

That was the beginning of me turning my life around. The knowledge that I had been living other people’s lives for such a long time made me really angry and sad and helped me to make a major decision. I was to put me first. I wasn’t quite sure what that meant but what I can tell you is it led me to become super aware about what I was here to be, do, and have.

Being in service of others doesn’t mean we have to give up on our needs and desires. My journey back to me has taught me it’s never too late to wake up and have another crack at creating the life that you really want to experience and in so doing have greater ability to support the people around you.

I welcome the opportunity to help show you how to bump back into your life, so you can live the life you’ve always dreamed of. Start by completing the Freedom Plan questionnaire and set up a 20 minute call with me to get your journey started.

For many years, I lived in the shadow of others in pursuit of their needs and dreams. It was so bad that if you asked me what I wanted in life it was hard for me to answer. I lacked clarity about what really mattered to me, what I wanted to do with my life, who I was, and what I was here to experience.

On occasion I would break free and focus on me and I noticed my life would flourish. It was usually short-lived and I would end up back in situations that kept me in the illusion of being powerless, stuck and unhappy.

At a young age I became overly responsible and caring to the point of depletion. I felt I was fitting my life in rather than living it – existing instead of living fully. Eventually, this way of being finally took a toll on me and I started to fear I might never live the life I had always dreamed of having.

Now don’t get me wrong, I think helping others is a good thing but when it’s out of balance and starts impacting you in your own life in terms of your health, finances, and general day-to-day happiness then you have to take a stand for you and put you first.

My turning point came when I was attending coaches training. The first week was all about gaining awareness and by the end of the week I broke down in tears because I realized without a doubt that I had been living someone else’s life and the life I dreamed of having was still waiting to be discovered explored and brought to reality. I remember becoming very emotional and inaudibly saying to the group as we stood in a circle, “ I believe I just bumped into myself.”

That was the beginning of me turning my life around. The knowledge that I had been living other people’s lives for such a long time made me really angry and sad and helped me to make a major decision. I was to put me first. I wasn’t quite sure what that meant but what I can tell you is it led me to become super aware about what I was here to be, do, and have.

Being in service of others doesn’t mean we have to give up on our needs and desires. My journey back to me has taught me it’s never too late to wake up and have another crack at creating the life that you really want to experience and in so doing have greater ability to support the people around you.

I welcome the opportunity to help show you how to bump back into your life, so you can live the life you’ve always dreamed of. Start by completing the Freedom Plan questionnaire and set up a 20 minute call with me to get your journey started.